Almost 10 years and 2 kids later…
He decided to put a ring on it and “officially” proposed.
It’s something we talked about over the years, but never felt in a rush to do. This is a 2nd marriage for each of us and we have kids from our previous marriages. There was always a reason we would put it off.
“Let’s wait until we own a house.”
“Finances are tight right now.”
“Everyone already considers us married.”
All the reasons made sense.
We have known each other since 5th grade and even went to college together for a couple of years, before going our separate ways for a few years. It wasn’t until after we both got divorced that we started dating. We had kids the same age, so it made getting together a little easier since the kids had someone to hang out with.
Fast forward a year later…we were living together and having our first son together. Another couple of years after that we welcomed our second son. Now with 5 kids between the two of us, who has time to think of planning a wedding??
The subject would come up from time to time over the years, but we didn’t get back to seriously talking about it until just recently. I mean, when you have been together for so long, doing everything a married couple does…being referred to as your significant other’s wife already, do you need to have the actual piece of paper??
But there is something about being married.
About Officially being THE WIFE!!
We went ring shopping together at a quaint antique shop in Salem, MA, A place I used to go Christmas Shopping with one of my sisters. I like rings, and jewelry in general, that are unique and can’t be found everywhere. For me, it wasn’t about getting the largest diamond or the most expensive ring. I wanted something that really fit my style.
After we picked out the ring, I told him that he still had to officially propose. I wanted us to have a story to go along with it.
Even though I knew the proposal was coming at some point, I didn’t know when. Which was exciting and a bit nerve-racking as I am someone who likes to plan surprises, but not always receives them especially in a public setting.
We went out to dinner one night with friends and while we were eating he took out the ring and got down on one knee and proposed. Our friends were also unaware that he was going to propose, but thinking fast, they were able to capture him putting the ring on my finger.
The proposal was perfect!
I am looking forward to getting into the planning stages over the upcoming months.
Are you engaged? Is this your first or second marriage?
I’d love to hear your story in the comments below.
